Leia, an integral figure of the Rebellion, and then the New Republic, lost standing with them, and had to be a General to another set of Rebels to the Empire that was not defeated at the end of ROTJ. (this is from source books). Also, her kid turned out like shit, and was lost to them.
I see what you mean for Leia. I didn't get that this was a new rebel group and not what was left of the New Republic. That is dumb. I like the story that they had a kid who turned out like shit - that's good drama and he does have Anakin's genes. Kid's often romanticize the people who have passed before them over what their parents teach. Because, as you will find out in about 11 years, they know better than their parents.
(Of course, by the time they hit their 30's most have figured out Mom & Dad were a lot smarter than they thought - unless Perry's your dad. HAHA -just kidding Perry).
Han left his wife, his family, and the Rebellion/Republic that caused him to grow into a better man to once again become a thief and smuggler. And his kid turned out like shit.
Another good point. Han wouldn't leave Leia. I can see him going out on "jobs" for weeks at a time but he would always come back to her. He also wouldn't have been such an idiot with Ben out on the bridge. He would have been more of a Dad coming down on his bad kid instead of a touchy feely Dad who stands there why his kid kills him.
Luke, who ideally fought the greatest evil out there, didn't blanche when he saw it was his father, gave (almost) everything to do what was right, and then later failed in everything he did with a New Jedi order, and almost killed a kid because of 'what may' happen. Then he just quit life and hid like a fucking coward, which was not ANYTHING like the Luke we saw.
Agree with you on Luke although I didn't hate the movie as much as you. Even if I bought into the premise of Luke running away and hiding. The true Luke would have left with...oh what's her name....crap I already forgot her name....anyway he would have left with her to help Leia.